In the beginning was the word and the word was...
Do you know the four little words that can keep you poor forever? Just thirteen insignificant letters arranged in such a way as to torment your mind and soul. They are:
“ I can't afford it!”
This and the many variations (such as ‘I’m broke’ and ‘I haven’t got enough’) represents a declaration of anguish that the universe is not abundant.
We will be examining the 'not enough' idea in another step. This one deals with the language we use to describe our financial situation.
Every word we utter is an indication of our inner state. But it isn't necessarily an accurate one, as we often contradict ourselves. It is common to say one thing and yet act in the opposite way. Many people say “I can't afford it” when faced with the dilemma of buying something they desire while feeling their lack. Then they spend a lot more money on something else, using a different set of logic.
Until you can own up to your choices with money, and recognise that every expense is simply an expression of your current priorities, your situation will not improve.
Changing your relationship with money means changing the way you feel about it and the way you talk about it. For as long as you keep up the ‘poor me’ story and talk of the lack and the restriction and the victim-
hood that is where you will stay.
You can desire and visualise and meditate forever but, each time you feel a desire coming on, if your response is 'I can't afford it' or ‘there isn't enough’, you are tormenting yourself with the conflict.
One part of you wants it so badly; the other confirms that it's impossible. No wonder this kind of functioning causes tumult.
First of all read step 5 again.
Seeing the half-full glass and expressing the 'available options' rather than harping on about the imagined restrictions is mastering the art of changing perspective.
Now, translate this idea into language, repeatedly. When you see the 'available options’ talk of them as such and own up to your choices.
Instead of saying again ‘I can't afford it!’ you could instead declare:
'Right now I have other priorities with my spending, but since this is certainly something I desire I will find a comfortable way to enable it to manifest.’
In this phrase you have done two important things. You have:
- taken responsibility for your spending and expressed a desire for the object in question.
- opened up possibilities for it to happen by envisioning possibility rather than the impossibility attached to 'I can't afford it'.
Every utterance we give is a confirmation to ourselves of a state that we are focused upon.
The more we talk lack or restriction, the more we will be focused on lack and restriction and the law will surely respond with same. Changing these patterns is not a five minute job. One clear statement of positive understanding followed by an abusive barrage of negatives doesn’t sort it.
In the beginning was the word and the word was 'good'. It certainly wasn't 'I can't afford it' or nothing would have happened. Changing our language about our financial perspectives will change our readiness to allow abundance. When we communicate with words of intention and ideas about states of becoming, the subconscious will respond to the feelings in the words that we use. And as the subconscious responds to the positive declarations, a new belief is ingrained.
And as a new belief is ingrained, the evidence must show itself.
So, just a little suggestion. Using other people's language doesn't always feel natural. We have to find our own language. The words which correspond with our personality.
Try practising 50 different ways of articulating the idea of options and intention. Practise them enough so that, in the company of others, they are reflex comments. Speak them enough and it will no longer require effort.